Laughing at a joke, not at a person

This is not a dream. This thing happened today and it hit me hard. But it tickled me too. Nowadays I am above getting hurt at a personal level by another person. I have baked myself so well into the emotional oven, that I am as hard as a brick, and I don't take comments, behavior or feelings personally.

Everyone has faults. Most people have their own accents. Others find them funny. I find lot of funny accents. I make fun of them, laugh at them. But I have no malice in that. I laugh at the joke, the fun in that accent, not at that person.

Today a person took my laughter personally.

The story goes like this:

My friend has his own accent. He was speaking with me. He said "Do a vold and see the result.". It sounded like "Do a wall-d and see the result".

So I said "Are you saying I do a w-a-l-l-d ?".

He said "No, I said v-o-l-d".

Then I spontaneously burst out laughing. I never laughed at him. I just laughed at the joke that this confusion had turned into, and enjoyed the laughter.

But my friend took it personally.

Later the same day, I was talking about some topic. Now I forgot what it was about. But for some reason, I said "It is all fucKKED-up". With an intended stress on KKED. I know how to pronounce the word properly, but I just wanted to say it the way I did.

My friend caught me right there and made fun of my pronunciation. He made it a point to expose my lack of proper accent.

I want to clarify to my conscience that I had not laughed at him. When I spoke, I knew how to pronounce my word properly.

I feel sad that he took my laughter in the negative sense, while I had laughed whole heartedly -- looking at only the joke in the event. My laughter put poison into his brain cells. Alas, he would have also laughed with me at his simple and harmless lack of pronunciation, instead of trying to find fault in my pronunciation and getting back at me at the first chance.

This is not a court case. There is no winner, no loser. May he find peace.